I happen to overhear a conversation between two mothers.
well, I guess when mommies meet they do baby talks :)
Mom 1: Aravind is smart compared to Aromal , But he doesn't work hard nor does he spent time with books.
Mom 2: Hmm, You know , It is actually bad when the children doesn't feel bad when they have to .
My daughter Archana*, when she was in fourth standard , I understood that point. In their school is an award given to the best performer of the standard. She used to get it every year . When she was in fourth standard I was worried if she will be upset if she didn't get the award. But that day she came home happy and told me, "Mom , this year Kavya got the award for the best performer". Being an role model mother i had to appreciate her for her wholeheartedness. I couldn't tell her It was better if you got it .
Mom 1 : hmm
Mom 2: In her school , she was one of the bright student and if she didn't get the expected mark for any subjects teachers used to take special care. They used to ask her what happened and scold her for not studying well. There was a good relationship between teachers and students and she got A+ for all subjects in her 10th .
But when she joined her 11 and 12th , being in the same campus , it was a different atmosphere . They didn't had any connection with their old teachers and new teachers where retired professors from engineering colleges .They came to class took lectures ,but there was difference in the wavelength between the students and teachers. The teachers never bothered to ask who got high marks in 10th and who got least. They didn't compare the students performance with their past marks.
So in 11th and 12th she didn't had to satisfy any teachers , she relaxed a bit and the teachers never bothered to scold students. The teachers and students where happy and enjoying their on life.
Why govt. brought 11th and 12th instead of predegree is because the kids are not ready for college right after 10th . But in their school , it was almost equal to predegree.
What happened was , in their school they had a lot of A+ in 10th standard and when 12th result came not even half of the kids managed to get A+ , and she didn't get too.
As part of my character , I wanted to middle :) . But this time I successfully didn't .
even though I knew I wouldn't tell all these rubbish because my kid didn't score mark , I knew the lady was worried where to put her kid next, I have seen my parents in the same state (where to put me after 12th) .
But they never blamed my school or my teachers or anything . They even didn't scold me , they just told me if you had tried you could have done better. We know that .
**(may be coincidence all the children are named after A)
well, I guess when mommies meet they do baby talks :)
Mom 1: Aravind is smart compared to Aromal , But he doesn't work hard nor does he spent time with books.
Mom 2: Hmm, You know , It is actually bad when the children doesn't feel bad when they have to .
My daughter Archana*, when she was in fourth standard , I understood that point. In their school is an award given to the best performer of the standard. She used to get it every year . When she was in fourth standard I was worried if she will be upset if she didn't get the award. But that day she came home happy and told me, "Mom , this year Kavya got the award for the best performer". Being an role model mother i had to appreciate her for her wholeheartedness. I couldn't tell her It was better if you got it .
Mom 1 : hmm
Mom 2: In her school , she was one of the bright student and if she didn't get the expected mark for any subjects teachers used to take special care. They used to ask her what happened and scold her for not studying well. There was a good relationship between teachers and students and she got A+ for all subjects in her 10th .
But when she joined her 11 and 12th , being in the same campus , it was a different atmosphere . They didn't had any connection with their old teachers and new teachers where retired professors from engineering colleges .They came to class took lectures ,but there was difference in the wavelength between the students and teachers. The teachers never bothered to ask who got high marks in 10th and who got least. They didn't compare the students performance with their past marks.
So in 11th and 12th she didn't had to satisfy any teachers , she relaxed a bit and the teachers never bothered to scold students. The teachers and students where happy and enjoying their on life.
Why govt. brought 11th and 12th instead of predegree is because the kids are not ready for college right after 10th . But in their school , it was almost equal to predegree.
What happened was , in their school they had a lot of A+ in 10th standard and when 12th result came not even half of the kids managed to get A+ , and she didn't get too.
As part of my character , I wanted to middle :) . But this time I successfully didn't .
even though I knew I wouldn't tell all these rubbish because my kid didn't score mark , I knew the lady was worried where to put her kid next, I have seen my parents in the same state (where to put me after 12th) .
But they never blamed my school or my teachers or anything . They even didn't scold me , they just told me if you had tried you could have done better. We know that .
**(may be coincidence all the children are named after A)
3 comments:
o manassilayi, ninte parents mathram kollaam ennalle nee uddeshichche ?.. ente parents-m angane onnum paranjittilla ketaaaaa
:) naan angane paranillallo
i just said my parents didn't blame the teachers :D
If i hurt your feelings .. Mujhe maaf karo
o sheri ..
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